Amy Poehler doesn't see her divorce as a failure

While Amy Poehler is well loved for her ability to call things as she sees them, this mom of two has been uncharacteristically quiet about her 2012 split from Will Arnett up until now.

“Imagine spreading everything you care about on a blanket and then tossing the whole thing up in the air,” the 43-year-old star wrote in her new book, Yes Please. “The process of divorce is about loading that blanket, throwing it up, watching it all spin, and worrying what stuff will break when it lands.”

“When you are a person going through a divorce you feel incredibly alone, yet you are constantly reminded by society of how frequently divorce happens and how common it has become,” the mother of 6-year-old Archie and 5-year-old Abel continued. “You aren’t allowed to feel special, but no one knows the specific ways you are in pain.”

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These days Amy Poehler is once again in love, this time with fellow star Nick Kroll.

“I have a boyfriend who knows how to settle me. He puts his hand on my chest and tells me boring stories,” she wrote about their relationship. “On one of our first nights together I woke up apologizing for my snoring and he pulled out two earplugs he had worn to bed so he could hear what I was saying. It was one of the most romantic gestures I have ever seen.”

“I am proud of how my ex-husband Will and I have been taking care of our children,” she also shared of how they’ve managed to work out co-parenting, adding, “I am beyond grateful he is their father, and I don’t think a ten-year marriage constitutes failure.”

It’s particularly interesting to me to hear this smart, funny woman’s take on divorce, because last year I had the pleasure of meeting her in person at a press junket for Free Birds. Amy was great, and happily talked about her kids with us, but leading up to the question and answer session it was made quite clear to our group the topic of her split was absolutely off limits.

At the time I thought it understandable, but was also a bit surprised. Amy is so good at tackling topics I hadn’t thought there’d be such a blatant line drawn for our chat. Truthfully, the rules being set out so clearly made me think the split must have still been quite upsetting for her at that time.

Reading her comments now, and her take on 10 years of marriage not being a failure, I’m slightly reminded of Gwyneth Paltrow’s notorious “conscious uncoupling,” as well as Jewel and Ty Murray’s “undoing” of themselves. Seems to me there’s a desire out there to have more than one way to look at splitting up.

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