Ryan Gosling & Eva Mendes' baby name revealed!

It’s been almost one month since Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling welcomed their baby girl, but the pair have managed to steer clear of the spotlight since then.

Friends of the couple report that they are already head over heels with their daughter, and that both are proving to be very hands-on parents. One source tells E! that Ryan “is infatuated with the baby,” and jumps right in to change diapers and rock her to sleep. Eva’s brother Juan Carlos Mendes, meanwhile, reveals, “Ryan’s going to be a great father. He’s just such a down-to-earth, nice guy. You couldn’t ask for anything better.” And while the new uncle dropped a big hint that they chose “a family name” for their first child, we didn’t know any more than that…. Until now.

PEOPLE has apparently gotten a glimpse at the birth certificate and has confirmed that Ryan and Eva have named their daughter Esmeralda Amada Gosling. The no doubt absolutely adorable baby arrived at 10:22 a.m. on September 12 in Santa Monica.

Parenting practice? Ryan & Eva share a scene with a baby (not Esmeralda) in the 2012 film, A Place Beyond the Pines

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A lovely Spanish name meaning “Emerald,” there are no shortage of cute nicknames for Esmeralda: Essie, Esme, Mera, to name a few. While it’s a very pretty pick, it may not have been Eva’s first choice. Long before she hooked up with her handsome Crazy Stupid Love beau, she revealed that her favorite baby name had been snatched by her good friend Salma Hayek!

“Valentina Paloma,” the 40-year-old star revealed. “I was like, ‘Salma, you took my baby name.’ And she’s all, ‘What are your other ones so that I don’t take them.’”

Congratulations again to Ryan and Eva!

Esmeralda, from The Hunchback of Notre Dame, is on our list of favorite under-the-radar Disney baby names. See which others made the cut!

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Video: The gross Frozen parody you have to see

I was hesitant to share this video knowing how saturated the Frozen cover-song world has been, but I just could not help myself. You usually see cute father-daughter duets or adorable little girls going at it solo – I promise you this version is nothing like you have seen before.

The music starts out and everything seems to be normal, that is until you hear sweet little Emily Mandelbaum unmistakably say the word “poop”. And it doesn’t stop there – the rest of her lyrics are comedic genius… if you are into bathroom humor, which I think most eight-year-olds are.

Although the song may be brash, you have to give the little girl some credit. Just check out the ingenuity of these lyrics.

No one come in, no one can see/ Oh my God, now I feel like I have to pee/ I hate how this feels, don’t let them know/ well, now they know/ Let me poop! Let me poop! Can’t hold it in anymore/ Let me poop! Let me poop! I should have closed the door/ I don’t care what they’re going to say/ Let the poop come out/ The smell never bothered me anyway.

While this sort of humor doesn’t usually bother me I have to wonder how many people are offended by it. I know many parents who would blush at hearing their children (especially girls) speak like this. I honestly feel like the song is okay, but I probably would not be interested in hearing an encore.

Regardless how I feel on the matter, people are flocking to watch this video. This viral video has gotten over 3 million views just in the last few months.

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How coffee and the New York Times make me a better parent

I read the entire New York Times Book Review and Arts and Leisure sections and drank my whole cup of coffee on Saturday morning.

This may not seem like much of a spectacular event, but it is. You see, this hasn’t happened since, well, about 2010 or so.

Saturday morning was my husband’s morning to sleep in, and that usually means that I am awakened by our four-year-old son calling out “Maaaahhhhhmeeeeeee”, exponentially elongating a word that has been traditionally pronounced with a concise two syllables. I semi-fall out of bed and stumble to his room to change him out of his pull-up. As soon as I ever-so-quietly turn the knob on his door, as if plugged in by some hyper-acute sixth sense, my daughter inevitably pops out of her own room.

And then it begins.

There are fights over whether or not they get to stay in pajamas or have to change into the shirts and dresses and pants that mean the day is underway. There is breakfast, and with it more fighting “No fair! He got the muffin I wanted!” “Mommy, she pushed me!”

We will usually cuddle up on the couch to watch a movie and when suggestions are made as to which we should choose, every single time the one the other said “Yes” to, is no longer desirable. I’m convinced this is based on principle alone.

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An hour or more has passed before they have settled and I finally have the chance to make coffee. Every weekend morning, without fail, it will be slightly below room temperature by the time I will have the chance to drink it, as I attempt to convince myself that “This is better anyway… I can get my caffeine fix in two big, time-saving gulps when it’s not hot!”

Usually, I will not remember to open our front door and collect the newspaper in its protective baby blue plastic sleeve.

I subscribed to the Weekend Edition of the Times as a gift to myself, as a promise of sorts that one day soon I will have the luxury of time to actually read it.

And then it happened this weekend.

I heard nothing.

Well, nothing resembling the drawn-out version of my name that I usually hear, at least. What I did hear were the click-clack of trains on the tracks in my son’s room and the soft whispers of dolls “chatting” with each other in my daughter’s room next door.

And the next sounds I heard were the drip drip drip of my coffee percolating and the rustling of the pages of the newspaper.

And when they both came down the stairs about an hour later looking for breakfast and orange juice and morning hugs and kisses, I was a little bit more patient than I am on a usual weekend. If I am being honest, I’ll admit I was likely nicer to those little people I am raising and loving.

And they didn’t get cereal or a muffin that morning — they got chocolate chip pancakes.

And I realized that a little time to myself makes a difference. It doesn’t have to be a spa day or a shopping spree (though those would certainly be nice!), but can be as simple as a cup of still-hot coffee and something good to read before the happy chaos of the day gets underway.

I have read dozens of parenting books and countless articles online and in magazines, which claim to have the solutions and answers as to how to be a better parent.

Who knew one of the secrets would be found at the bottom of my coffee cup?

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5 benefits of babywearing: My experience in photos

This post is sponsored by Ergobaby.

I have a confession to make — I haven’t always been a fan of babywearing. There, I said it.

My son hated the very basic baby carrier we had for him as a newborn, and so my babywearing days as a first-time mom were over before they had even begun.

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My son was not impressed by his baby carrier. At all.

It wasn’t until I tested out the Ergobaby Four Position 360 Baby Carrier with my daughter that I fell in love with the whole idea of toting around my baby hands-free. Now, I’m hooked! And so, in honor of International Babywearing Week, (Oct. 5-11,) I give you five benefits of wearing your little ones in a sling, wrap or baby carrier.

1) Free up your hands, so you can get things done. Need to type up something using two hands, but baby is tired and cranky? Wear her! Grossed out by the state of your carpeted floors, but your daughter refuses to chill for a few minutes in her play pen? Strap that baby on and go to town!

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Ok, ok, so I never actually vacuum while wearing my baby. But you totally could!

2) Keep baby close and secure without the bulk. Over the past few weekends, my family has gone to several fall festivals in our area. Pushing a stroller through the crowds of people would have been a huge hassle, so I just wore my daughter instead.

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Babywearing is handy for enjoying fall festivals with your little one snuggled in close.

3) Keep up with other small children in and out of the home. My 3-year-old son listens fairly well in public…until he doesn’t. Wearing my baby allows me to keep up with his shenanigans in a more effective manner when we’re out and about.

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This little guy keeps me on my toes.

4) Schedule your day without having to be a slave to the nap schedule. I don’t know about you, but when my kids skip their naps, no one has much fun. Unfortunately, my son and my daughter don’t always nap at the same time. Sometimes I have to be out and about during my daughter’s sleepy time — so it’s a win/win when I can just strap her in her carrier and go about my business. She can catch a quick snooze and I can actually leave the house during her sacred nap time, if needed.

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Nap time is a breeze, if you happen to be on the go.

  5) The bonding feels great. I love the snuggles! And dad doesn’t seem to mind them much, either.

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Babywearing can be a good bonding opportunity for dads, too.

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This post is sponsored by Ergobaby. During the month of October, share a selfie of you and your baby on your babywearing adventures and be entered for a chance to win an Ergobaby Newborn Prize pack! You can enter the #WhereIBabywear contest here.

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Gender-neutral preschool: Don't call kids "girls" and "boys"

In Swedish, the word for “she” is hon and the word for “he” is han . So if you wanted to tell your child to pay attention to somebody, you might say, “Hon needs you to stop playing now,” or “Han is waiting for you to listen,” depending on the circumstances and the person’s gender.

But in recent years, some Swedish preschools have opted for a third alternative: A neutral first person pronoun, hen, that applies to everyone regardless of gender. This story in Newsweek calls it the “three letter word driving a gender revolution,” a tactic designed to break down sex role stereotypes and discourage discrimination. Teachers address their students as children, not as “boys” or “girls,” and kids learn to refer to others in gender-free terms.

Is this one of those ideas that is ripe for international export?

Maybe so. Some people don’t want to be identified as male or female. Others do want to be identified, but are so androgynous it’s hard to tell. In such cases, a word like hen could be a social lifesaver. And think of the convenience of having such a word available in English. There would be no more need for clunky phrases like “he or she.”

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But these advantages aside, there is still the question of gender discrimination. Would the use of gender-free pronouns actually make kids less sexist?

Nobody knows for sure. As a Swedish linguist in the Newsweek article notes, our attitudes about sex roles are influenced by many different things, so even if the Swedish preschoolers end up with less stereotyped views about gender, we can’t assume that the pronoun hen is responsible.

Still, research provides us with some hints. Jennifer Prewitt-Freilino and her colleagues compared 111 different countries on the basis of gender equality and the type of language spoken. The researchers identified three different types of language –

• “grammatical gender” languages, like German and Spanish, that don’t just have gender-specific pronouns, but also assign a gender to most nouns, so that a word like “computer” is grammatically marked as either male or female, e.g., der Computer (a “masculine” word in German) or la computadora (a “feminine” word in Spanish),

• “natural gender” languages, like English and Swedish, that distinguish gender through pronouns but treat most other nouns as gender-neutral, and

• “genderless” languages, like Finnish, Chinese, and Swahili, that show a “complete lack of grammatical gender distinction” in their pronouns and nouns.

The researchers predicted that “grammatical gender” languages would be associated with the highest levels of gender inequality, and they were right. Even after controlling for other variables, like religion or system of government, countries characterized by “grammatical gender languages” showed more evidence of inequality.

But the most equitable societies weren’t necessarily the ones where genderless languages were spoken. Instead, gender equality tended to be highest in countries where natural gender languages predominate – languages like English that skip assigning gender to things like computers, but use gendered pronouns like “he” and “she.”

Prewitt-Freilino and her colleagues think they know why. Studies suggest that people often interpret gender-neutral pronouns and nouns (like “they” or “the athletes”) as references to males. So growing up with a gender-neutral language is not a guarantee of gender-balanced thinking. And if your society has got a gender bias, lacking gendered pronouns might make it harder to change.

That’s because gendered pronouns offer you a way to counteract stereotypes in everyday speech. You can say things like “every kid who likes science should visit her local planetarium,” actively challenging our implicit biases, and encouraging people to think more flexibly.

It’s a good point, and one that seems important even if it turns out that the case against gendered language is overly simplistic. So though I like the idea of adding a word like hen to English, I think there is much to be said for keeping our gendered pronouns in use. Kids will always notice gender and sex differences. If our language ignores this, we might be denying ourselves a helpful tool for changing minds and expanding perspectives.

More reading

For more talk about gender and kids, see my article, “Girl toys, boy toys, and parenting: The science of toy preferences in children.”

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